A woman, 55, has narrated how she waited till her mid fifties to get married. Esther Bamiloye, in an exclusive chat with the Punch said before she married her 62-year-old husband, Isaac Bakare, she never had sex.
She narrated how she waa able to keep herself, attributing that to the grace of God. She added that before her marriage on 29th October, 2021, both of them had not married before.
Tell us about yourself
“I am Lady Evangelist Esther Bamiloye, now Mrs Bakare. I am the 55-year-old woman that got married recently for the first time in her life. My husband is Isaac Bakare, a 62-year-old artisan. Before we got married, he was never married too.
“I have a Grade 2 certificate, but I am not into teaching. I am into garment production. I produce garment such as vests, sports wears, washable diapers and more. The devil had plans to stop me from getting married. When I felt I was ready, there was no man coming for me. I kept waiting on God for a miracle till I reached 55-years.
What is the story behind your long wait for marriage?
The devil had plans to stop me from getting married. When I felt I was ready, there was no man coming for me. I kept waiting on God for a miracle till I reached 55-years. I never dated anyone till I got married. Initially, I thought the problem was from my former church and I left, but I give glory to God. He did it for me in my new church and all the barriers were removed.
I never dated anyone till I got married. Initially, I thought the problem was from my former church and I left, but I give glory to God. He did it for me in my new church and all the barriers were removed. I did not at any point in time have any date before I eventually got married. I lived a decent life throughout my school days. I didn’t have any relationship before. I accepted Christ very early and when I was still a student, I didn’t even give any thought to it, as I knew I was not ready then.
How were you able to deal with the pressure?
I was able to withstand all the pressure because of my deep-rooted faith, belief and focus on Christ Jesus. Specifically, God gave me that grace, dedication and help from certain quarters also sustained me all through.
How did you meet your husband and how did you know he was meant for you?
The way God did it, it can’t be explained. It came into fulfillment just as God said it. God even revealed our wedding date, which was October 29, 2021. The period between our meeting and wedding was really short. I give God all the glory for remembering me after all these years. God had been revealing his picture and personality to me and speaking to me about him through some people for over three years. Exactly on the day it reached three years that I first got the revelation, God sent the message again through a prophet. The description of his looks, where he would come from and others matched perfectly when I set my eyes on him at Ilesa. My church is in Osogbo, but we had an event in Ilesa where I met the man destined for me.
At your age, do you look forward to having kids?
God does all things and one of the blessings of marriage is having children. One has to look forward to childbearing and be steadfast in things of God, and live a happy and fulfilled life. I don’t really have a specific number of children in mind. (We want) as many as God can give us and we can take care of.I can’t be scared of such things. In fact, I am looking forward to having babies. God that has brought me this far will do it and make all things easy. He is God.
While you waited, what were the challenges you faced?
They were many. Imagine someone of that age not having a husband and not that I deliberately wish not to have. There were many days of weeping, begging God to have mercy. But today, I am happy because as great as the affliction was, I was still able to achieve a lot of things in other areas of my life. that grace, dedication and help from certain quarters also sustained me all through.
Things like that can’t be ruled out, especially when you see your mates or those younger than you doing well, getting married and you are yet to do yours, there will definitely be pressure from people around.
During your wait, did you lose hope?
Not really. But I was overwhelmed at some point. It was simply God’s grace that kept me going. I did not know any man till I got married to my husband. I married as a virgin.
What is your advice for those who are presently going through what you experienced before getting married?
I advise them to be steadfast in Christ. Although it is not always easy, but with prayers, steadfastness, faith and not being weary, all will end with beautiful testimonies. I am a living testimony and I can confidently say it that God answers prayers, even though it may take a long period of time.